Clients exploring their relationship difficulties in individual therapy are often preoccupied with one of two questions: ‘Is this really the person I married?’ or, ‘Is this truly The One?’ In the third part of her series, couples therapist, psychoanalytic psychotherapist and author Anne Power observes the various ways in which relationships may begin, including through dating sites – and considers the role of the individual therapist in helping clients work through the fears, doubts, regrets and feelings of loss that can ensue.