Teaching Men Love: How to Challenge Traditional Masculinity’s Playbook

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Terry Real, LICSW Related seminars and products

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Terry Real, LICSW, New York Times bestselling author of Us: Getting Past You and Me to Build a More Loving Relationship and founder of Relational Life Therapy (RLT), has spent over 30 years challenging the cultural forces that erode our capacity for authentic love. Known for his fierce compassion and groundbreaking work in men’s issues, Real brings both clinical wisdom and raw humanity to the deepest questions of how we live and love.

Speaker Disclosures:
Financial: Terrence Real is the founder of Relational Life Institute, maintains a private practice and has an employment relationship with Family Institute of Cambridge. He receives royalties as a published author. Terry Real receives a speaking honorarium, recording, and book royalties from Psychotherapy Networker and PESI, Inc. He has no relevant financial relationships with ineligible organizations.
Non-financial: Terrence Real has no relevant non-financial disclosures.

Objectives

1. Evaluate how to treat men disarm an upset partner with humility and generosity instead of defensive argument.
2. Determine ways in psychotherapy to increase men’s willingness to cherish both themselves and their relationship with their partner to improve well-being.
3. Demonstrate how to help men grow more of what they want from their partner through actively appreciating what they’re already getting in the context of treatment.
4. Apply 3 strategies for how to get therapeutic “buy in” from even difficult men by enlisting their own best self-interest.

Outline

• Help men disarm an upset partner with humility and generosity instead of defensive argument 
  • The Art of Relational Ju-Jitsu 
  • Becoming a “generous gentleman 
• Increase men’s willingness to cherish both themselves and their relationship with their partner 
  • Developing a cherishing relationship to oneself 
  • How to “do love” 
• Help men grow more of what they want from their partner through actively appreciating what they’re already getting 
  • Shifting from complaint to request 
  • Positive feedback as relational strategy  
  • Thinking like a team 
• Get therapeutic “buy in” from even difficult men by enlisting their own best self-interest 
  • The wisdom of a systemic perspective 
  • Forming an alliance with the “functional adult” part of the man 

Target Audience

• Counselors
• Social Workers
• Psychologists
• Psychotherapists
• Therapists
• Marriage & Family Therapists
• Addiction Counselors
• Case Managers
• Physicians
• Nurses
• Other Mental Health Professionals

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