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Loving Bravely: Helping Clients Who are Single, Dating, & Single-Again

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  1. Integrate the theory of Integrative Systemic Therapy into counseling and psychotherapy interventions for individuals and couples. 
  2. Utilize the concept of relational self-awareness in clinical practice. 
  3. Investigate the socio-cultural changes and trends in romantic and intimate partnerships in recent decades and how those changes affect our work with clients. 
  4. Construct a model of a client's love template for understanding how they operate within a romantic relationship based on their attachment style and family of origin and other experiences. 
  5. Apply the three stages of a typical romantic relationship to clinical practice. 
  6. Evaluate various models for assisting clients in developing a healthy sense of sexuality and sexual identity 
  7. Formulate a method for developing a client's script or narrative around their sexuality. 
  8. Practice methods for working with clients on perpetual relationship conflicts within sessions. 
  9. Sketch a vulnerability cycle map for use with clients in perpetual relationship conflicts 
  10. Demonstrate interventions for helping clients overcome distress related to breakups, divorce, and relationship losses. 
  11. Devise a plan for clients re-entering relationships after breakups, divorce, or relationship losses. 
  12. Manage the unique characteristics of relational problems that exist within multi-cultural relationships and long-distance relationships. 


SESSION 1: Introduction to Relational Self-Awareness: From Outside-In to Inside-Out 
What You Need to Know to Help Clients in All Stages of Relationships 

Alexandra sets the stages of the course and outlines the fundamentals behind using relational self-awareness in the clinical setting based on the theories underlying Integrative Systemic Therapy for both individuals and couples. 

SESSION 2: Mapping Your Client’s Love Template: From Fragmented to Coherent 
Helping Clients Prepare Themselves for Relationships & Stop Repeating Old Patterns  

Most couples therapy focuses on a relationship after it's begun to fall apart, but many therapists don't know how to help clients prepare for love or prevent problems. This session focuses on a unique way of helping clients understand the way they love and how it's affecting their relationships.   

Session 3: Self-Aware Sexuality: From Silence to Advocacy 
Helping Clients Develop Healthy & Conscious Sexual Relationships  

We are a culture obsessed with sex and sexuality, but many therapists may not know how to bring it up or might feel that's a topic best left for a sex therapist. In this session, Alexandra gives therapists the keys all therapists should know about when it comes to supporting a client's sexuality at all stages of their life.   

Session 4: Self-Aware Dating: From Ghosting to Integrity 
What You Need to Know About Helping Clients Date in an Online Dating App World. 

The way we date is undergoing massive changes with all new rules and standards. In this session, Alexandra makes sense of the changes with online dating apps, safety, boundaries, honesty, and personal integrity. She explores the ways in which this new world of dating is both challenging and clears the way for a new level of loving relationships.   

Session 5: Self-Aware Conflicts: From Reactive to Responsive 
Helping Clients Understand & Navigate the Roots of Relationship Problems  

In this session, Alexandra presents her approach to handling relational conflicts in therapy from the perspective of relational self-awareness. She shares how to move to being responsive to partners without compromising your own integrity and handling conflict in a way that can strengthen a relationship.   

Session 6: Self-Aware Breakups & Divorce: From Ambivalence to Clarity 
Helping Clients Make Decisions about Should I Stay or Should I Go?  

Not all relationships that end are failures. Alexandra shows in this session how to approach breakups and divorce with a variety of clients in different stages of life and shows you how to help clients who ask "should I stay or should I go?"    

Session 7: Self-Aware Recovery: From Rebounding to Ready 
Helping Clients Re-Enter Relationships after Breakups, Divorce, & Other Relationship Loss  

In this session, Alexandra shows you how to help clients get ready for another relationship after breakup or divorce and promote relational self-awareness as clients prepare to move to new relationships.   

Session 8: Self-Aware Cross-Cultural & Long Distance Relationships: From Role to Soul 
Helping Clients’ with Relationships That Cross Cultural Differences & Geographic Distance  

In this session, Alexandra looks at helping clients who may be in multi-cultural relationships and who live in different places and how to navigate the unique challenges both of these situations create. 

Copyright : 01/10/2019

BONUS: The Modern Landscape of Love

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Explain the relationship between recent dating trends and clinical symptoms, like anxiety and depression, and how they inform treatment interventions. 

  • Using Integrative Systemic Therapy (IST) to assess for positive and negative impact of dating on emotional health 
  • Supporting clients who are struggling with negative impact on emotional health including self-aware dating strategies, peer support, and technology breaks. 

Identify how to help clients set boundaries and advocate for their relational needs with romantic partners. 

  • Encouraging clients to use attachment style, relationship history, and family of origin dynamics to guide choices 
  • Differentiating between rule-based dating plans and one’s own path 
  • A framework for sexual decision-making 

Explore with clients the importance of relational self-awareness in creating a successful romantic relationship. 

  • Relational self-awareness 
  • The role of emotional vulnerability 
  • Exploring how modern dating climate constrains emotional vulnerability 
  • Strategies for helping clients develop more comfort with vulnerability. 
  • Incorporating knowledge (about self and about love) translate into ease with commitment 


  1. Explain the relationship between recent dating trends and clinical symptoms, like anxiety and depression, and how they inform treatment interventions.
  2. Identify how to help clients set boundaries and advocate for their relational needs with romantic partners. 
  3. Explore with clients the importance of relational self-awareness in creating a successful romantic relationship. 

Copyright : 22/03/2019

BONUS: Taking Sexy Back

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  1. Identify several ways in which therapists can help female clients create a more expansive view of their sexual selves.
  2. Examine the ways in which societal sexual standards punish women for their failure to conform for the purposes of psychoeducation.
  3. Point out several conditions that typically accompany a negative self-image to inform the clinician’s choice of treatment interventions.
  4. Illustrate how female clients might enlist the help of male allies in becoming more sex-positive.



  • Relational Self-Awareness
  • Me Too
  • Toxic Masculinity
  • Sexual Desire

Declaration vs. Reclamation

  • The Impact of Trauma
  • Reforming Sex-Education
  • Purity Culture
  • Bodily Autonomy

Reconceptualizing Consent

  • Feedback Loop
  • Reframing Male Sexuality as Non-Predatory
  • Sex as an Open-Ended, Ongoing Personal Project
  • The Evolution of Sexual Identity
  • Personal vs. Relational Empowerment

Sexual Self-Awareness Through Different Lenses

  • Culture
  • Spirit
  • Development
  • Mind
  • Body
  • Emotion
  • Relationship

Copyright : 23/03/2019