This workshop led by Dr Raja Selvam focuses on the relationship between trauma, development & attachment.
How an insecure attachment style (avoidant, ambivalent, or disorganized) shows up as specific adulthood difficulties depends on the stage of childhood in which the developmental or shock traumas affected our relational capacities and the specific developmental tasks affected in that stage of development. For example, the vulnerability driving an avoidant attachment style could be the terror of being annihilated from birth trauma (existence); or the deep distrust that one’s needs would be met from the experience of being starved in scheduled feeding practices (need); or the fear that a caregiver could destroy one’s self-experience due to constant neglect or intrusion upon the child’s self-experience (autonomy). Further, within a single stage of development (such as existence), the vulnerability driving the avoidant pattern might have something to do with not having mastered the developmental task of feeling safe enough in one’s body to exist (existential safety); or not feeling worthy enough to be loved (existential shame).
This three-day workshop will describe and demonstrate how to work with adult relationship difficulties differentiated in terms of attachment styles and various developmental tasks in at least three early stages of development using clinical strategies of interpersonal resonance and emotional embodiment from Integral Somatic Psychology™ (ISP™), a modality based partly on emerging paradigms of embodied cognition and emotion in cognitive neuroscience and psychology. It will integrate classical attachment theory (Bowlby, Ainsworth, Main, and Fonagy) with the most developed somatic theory of stages of childhood development and character structure formation (Marcher et. al.), as well as findings that demonstrate that providing emotional regulation through embodied attunement is key to repairing attachment wounds (Wallen).